Petal Three, Worksheet #1: Story 3
Title: Frase School
Growing up, I had a neighbor who’s daughter was born with down syndrome. I was lucky enough to get to spend regular, but brief, moments of time with her in passing and occasionally an afternoon with her. For anonymity’s sake, I will refer to her as Mara. Mara to this is someone I can think of who immediately brings a smile to my face and a warmness to my heart. She is kind, honest, patient, hardworking, funny, caring, and interested. I was always struck by her simple way of thinking and being, and regularly felt heard and appreciated by her. The ease as to which joy was brought to her always humbled me. I feel lucky to know her.
As a result of this friendship, I felt drawn to working with others who have special needs. I decided I would find a place I could volunteer my time in which I would get to be around more people like Mara. About 4 years ago I found Fraser Schools in Minneapolis and applied to be a volunteer. The first roadblock I faced was finding the time to get to spend days at the school that fit my work schedule. I talked with my employer and was able to get Tuesday’s and Thursdays off to spend at the school. Another roadblock I faced was internal dialogue, which never hesitates to try and talk me out of things. I doubted my capability and was afraid to fail. Despite this, I moved forward, acted as if, and gave it my best shot.
The steps involved in this process were:
- Finding a school for kids with special needs.
- Applying for the volunteer position.
- 2 in person interviews.
- Adjusting schedule.
- Getting to know the kids.
- Getting to know the teachers.
- Gaining confidence and trust of these two groups.
- Listening to the kids.
- Conflict resolution.
- Patience.
In starting to write this story, I was focused on the external, what I did and how. But at this point, I am beginning to remember how much more it was then I originally remembered.
I got to sit, talk, read, observe, and help these beautiful children. I got to know some of their parents and developed relationships I will never forget. On top that, being a young male from California, I offered a unique insight and presence some of these students and teachers hadn’t had before.
I was able to use my God given personable and kind nature to help kids and develop relationships with them.